Planet Mom

May 5, 2026 · 12:11 pm

Adulting, Mostly

My husband and I are empty nesters and have been for the past seven years or so. Our twin daughters are on their own now and navigating through life quite well for the most part. They’ve managed to graduate from college, secure jobs and find decent apartments after a lengthy search process. Never mind that one lives two hours away while the other one is SIX STATES away.

And although they’re undeniably independent, they still need us to some degree, which makes my heart happy. On more than one occasion, they’ve needed financial advice or assistance, which isn’t all that surprising given where they are in life. I’ve certainly been in their shoes and needed a bailout from one crisis or another—like the time my car broke down when I lived in metro DC and it cost more to tow and repair it than it was worth. Living paycheck to paycheck didn’t allow for many contingency plans as I soon discovered. It’s true; everyone wants to be grown up until the responsibilities of being grown up are decidedly overwhelming.

Among other things, our kids have experienced a fair amount of car trouble since they moved away—everything from leaky tires and engine lights coming on to securing a clamshell on the roof and locking keys inside the car (not once but twice). We couldn’t physically solve the problems, of course, but we could offer boatloads of guidance and moral support over the phone. Sometimes just knowing someone is there listening to one’s unhinged tirade is worth more than the effort it takes to overcome the difficulty.

Likewise, we’ve been there to bear witness to gripes and grumbles over career politics and policies, becoming a sounding board for perceived injustices and bouts of self-doubt. As for the latter, I think everyone on the planet has been crippled by self-doubt at one time or another. As parents, we’re here to quell those fears. I think that’s our job anyway—that and teaching them how to tie their shoes and operate power tools without losing a finger.

What’s more, our kids have requested our assistance when it comes to cooking on occasion. Sometimes it’s as simple as reciting or sending a photo of a recipe. Other times, we FaceTime and walk them through to completion, because we learned to make it from memory and not a recipe. Nothing feels quite as good as the sense of accomplishment (we both experience) when the food turns out perfectly, even though I am 1,463 miles away and I can only imagine how good the kitchen smells.

And who knew we’d become furniture assembly and delivery experts? Not I. But we show up—with hammers, drills and Gorilla Tape, ready to build and haul whatever they ask us to. I’ll never forget the time we improvised using the aforementioned duct tape to secure the slats on a certain someone’s bed. Knock on wood, it’s still holding.

We’re also there (in spirit) to comfort our kids when they get sick. We can’t bring them hot soup while they’re burrowed beneath a mountain of blankets on our couch, but we can offer advice on how to be well again. I think this might be one of the hardest parts of parenting—or long-distance parenting, more correctly. I never thought that convincing them to see a doctor or go to the ER would be that difficult, but it truly is.

I’ll admit that I sometimes find myself wandering into what used to be their nursery and sitting in the rocking chair that’s still there. Apparently, my husband does this, too. As I look around the room I can envision just where their cribs were situated and remember the countless hours I spent there trying like crazy to get them to sleep, lying on the floor, one arm threaded through the wooden crib spindles, patting this one or that one’s bottom. I remember reading aloud books at bedtime, too. SO many books. There was a time that I could recite Goodnight Moon and Where the Wild Things Are entirely from memory, using voices that pleased a crowd of two.

Once again, it felt good to be needed when they were small—although it was an exhausting affair by all accounts. Here’s hoping that I continue to be needed—even if it’s from afar.

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April 28, 2026 · 12:00 pm

Strangelings

Most would agree that cats are weird little dudes. Adorable and fuzzy, of course, but definitely weird. At least ours are. My husband and I have had a number of them over the years. Long-haired, short-haired, smoky grey, orange, jet black and tabby. But they all seemed to have one thing in common: weirdness.

We had one cat who made it a habit to walk our kids to and from the bus stop before and after school. He was like clockwork. Even the bus driver, Helen, was keenly aware of his presence and made sure he was all the way across the road before she drove off, as if he were one of the kids—just furrier. This cat also played fetch, like a dog. He would chase various items that we threw for him and dutifully brought them back.

Another cat felt compelled to bring us the carcass of whatever he happened to slaughter on his nightly adventures. He’d leave beheaded creatures at the doorstep as a “gift” for us or conveniently carry them inside where we could more closely inspect that which was obviously precious to him. Sometimes he’d remove not only the head, but the paws, too, and then he’d display them neatly in a row, which is both disturbing and impressive. I’ll never forget stepping on a dead mouse on the porch IN MY BARE FEET on one occasion, stifling a scream. I’m sure he was pleased that I took note of his hunting prowess.

Still another cat, who was feral but became quite loveable over time, used to BITE rocks; although he did bite my husband more than once, sending him to the doctor for antibiotics. At any rate, our kids collected rocks at every turn and displayed some of the smaller ones on our kitchen island next to some candles. I don’t know what went on in that furry little head of his that insisted it made perfect sense to grate his teeth across stones from time to time, but something clearly did. I think he even had a favorite rock that he gnawed upon more than the others. Of course, I kept the rocks. I just couldn’t bear to toss them out after he passed.

Currently we have two cats that get along for the most part, Peets and Mario; but what’s odd is that Peets routinely tackles Mario like a linebacker—a cat that is TWICE her size. She just walks up to him, looks him dead in the eye and pounces, wrapping her tiny arms around his enormous neck. Stranger still, he backs down after a short-lived scuffle (so that Peets can resume giving me a bath). What a weirdo. But aside from the mismatched brawling, Mario has some traits we’ve discovered that eclipse all the others. We haven’t had him all that long, but he has provided a wealth of entertainment in that time.

For starters, he crawls inside ridiculous spaces—like our Lazy Susan, our pantry, our dryer and our refrigerator for God’s sake. I know, it’s a disgusting habit. He also resurrects random items from the cellar, carries them upstairs and shoves them under the door—like a gift. Stuff like pencils, screws, bolts and chewed-upon markers (often with the caps removed). Of course, we’re immensely appreciative. For context, our cats spend the night in our basement because we simply cannot let them have the run of the house. I haven’t completely lost my mind. What’s more, he plays fetch with himself by hauling an actual tennis ball to the top of the stairs and then lets it bounce all the way down. I know because I hear it thud on each step for hours on end and it only started happening after we adopted him. I’m pretty sure he’s the one placing toy mice (and sometimes REAL mice) in his water bowl as well, soggy as ever. I’m not sure if the real mouse died because he was bludgeoned to death or he drowned. Either way, he was a goner.

I suspect Mario has a personal vendetta against my houseplants, too. More specifically, he tries to murder them on a daily basis. He pulls them out of the pots and drags them across the floor, dirt and plant bits scattering everywhere. Naturally, I shout obscenities at him—just like all the times he jumps on me (or my husband) and attaches briefly to our backsides. Occasionally, he’ll leap as high as our shoulders, which is remarkable in its own right. Clearly, he’s not getting enough attention.

I’ll have to work on that.

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April 21, 2026 · 1:05 pm

High-Tech Wizardry

There is not a day that goes by that I refrain from remarking how astonishing technology is. Case in point: NASA’s Artemis II space mission that recently transported four astronauts around the moon and back to earth. Safely, I might add. What an incredible achievement. The brilliance and mathematical calculations required to pull off such a feat just blow my ever-loving mind. Of course, I was glued to the TV at 8:07pm on April 10^th when they successfully splashed down in the Pacific Ocean, precisely on schedule and precisely on target—two more unbelievable accomplishments. I can’t even parallel park consistently.

Like a lot of people, I followed their 10-day 695,081-mile journey via social media and various news networks, absolutely floored by the images and videos they shared with the world. I wish I could say that as a 6-year-old I was equally impressed with the Apollo 11 moon landing in 1969. But that was a long time ago, and I was probably more interested in cartoons.

Nevertheless, I am currently fascinated by such technological triumphs, especially the ones that improve our daily lives. The smartphone is a prime example—like a pocket-sized computer. And it’s almost surreal, as if we’re living a slice of the “reality” depicted on Star Trek. Aside from being able to Google literally anything imaginable, we have access to apps that allow us to do what was unthinkable just a few short decades ago. With all that is available nowadays, making a hands-free cell phone call while driving or zipping a text (while not driving) is almost pedestrian by comparison. What’s more, we’ve been able to FaceTime since 2010 and hold Zoom meetings since 2011. Thankfully my husband, who happened to be testifying in court in the basement of his mother’s house in his underwear, carried out a call and not FaceTime or Zoom. No judge or jury wants that visual.

But beyond the basics of navigating via GPS, emailing, taking, editing and airdropping photos and videos, playing music via Bluetooth, sharing contacts, jotting down extensive notes, exchanging money, shopping online, catching up on the news, checking the weather LITERALLY ANYWHERE ON THE PLANET and utilizing a calculator, flashlight and dictionary on command we can ask Siri ANYTHING. And sometimes she comes up with a reasonable answer. Confession: It does creep me out a little when I discover she’s been listening to me all along, not to mention the CIA and every business entity that curiously exposes me to their ads right after I research or mention a product. Oh well, I guess it’s a small price to pay for innovation.

Not surprisingly, I have some favorite apps, because of course I do. And I waste time on them just like everyone else. There’s the calendar app that’s automatically available on iPhones, without which I wouldn’t remember anything of importance or get anywhere on time because of its nifty alert/alarm feature that doesn’t let me forget so much as a dentist appointment. I no longer have to write down reminders in a little booklet that never fit in my purse right anyway. And I appreciate that advancement. As one might expect, I’m addicted to social media and have various accounts that I peruse routinely, much to my husband’s chagrin. A little time spent on Threads and Instagram (unless it’s doomscrolling, AI or body-shaming) can’t be all bad.

I really like the NYT Games app and our Ring app, too. It not only lets me see who is in our driveway or at the front door in real time, it also allows me to watch raccoons, possums and skunks lurking about on our deck so that I know when not to venture outside—which is good information to file away. Additionally, we have an app that conveys helpful data on the solar panels we recently installed. It has colorful graphs and an array of the individual panels that depicts exactly how each one is performing in terms of kilowatt hours. Once again, I am blown away by the technology on full display here. The basic alarm clock is nice, too.

Likewise, I’m amazed by all the bells and whistles contained within my Apple watch. It allows me to text and make calls, it counts my steps and measures my heart rate and it even “knows” if I’ve fallen and will automatically call 911 if need be. I certainly wish I had one when I crashed and burned on my skateboard in 1976.

And yes, I still obsessively stalk my people on the Find Friends app, but I track airplanes (FlightRadar24) now, too. Like a real nerd.

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April 14, 2026 · 1:25 pm

I’m with the Band

Since our kids abandoned us and went off to college, my husband and I really miss the noise in our household. Sounds almost inconceivable, but it’s true. They had friends over frequently and we miss their noise, too. Really, we do—because they were delightful. There were countless Halloween parties, marching band sectional get-togethers, musical cast gatherings and just ordinary meetups for snacks and shenanigans around our kitchen island and sprawled across our back deck. I remember a veritable din of music and laughter emanating from what can only be described as a small herd of high schoolers, and I remember wishing it would never end.

I pine for the kids, of course, but mostly it’s the music they created that I long to hear once more. To say that our home was filled with music is an understatement, largely because of the encouragement and tutelage of Aegina and Bobby Leidhecker, Amanda Haney, Lee Saville-Iksic, Donna Elkin, Miki Rebeck, Ryan Bulgarelli, Jared Whitford, Meg McQue and Dr. William Ciabattari. Our twins ended up being music education majors so someone was always singing or playing an instrument at all hours throughout their middle and high school years. I’ll never forget witnessing them playing a riff from “Smoke on the Water” as fifth graders in the middle of our kitchen floor. Seriously. That happened.

My favorites of all time, though, were listening to the French horn as well as vocals accompanied by the strums of a ukelele. I’m sad to say that part of me took this beautiful soundtrack of our lives for granted. Somehow, I thought it would always be there, a constant in the background. Now the house is quiet, and they’re off on their own in the world, adulting, mostly.

Since the “free concerts” we’ve enjoyed inside our house have been egregiously discontinued, my husband and I have had to settle for the next best thing—attending concerts outside the house. Of course, this isn’t exactly a new thing for us, but it’s something we’ve certainly done more of lately. We’ve seen everything from Brahms Requiem at Carnegie Hall, the Philadelphia Orchestra, the Williamsport Symphony Orchestra and Uptown Music Collective to Tom Petty, B.B. King, Smokey Robinson, Fleetwood Mac, the Stones and Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young. Needless to say, we’re music appreciators and we have eclectic taste.

And although we continue to enjoy a variety of music, our priorities have changed somewhat over the years. Earplugs are more important than ever and if we forget them, we wad up tissues and jam them into our ears. Decades ago, we never would have dreamed of doing that. The louder, the better was our motto. Never mind that we couldn’t hear for three days. And now that we’re suffering the consequences of our own actions, we regret not taking better care of our precious ears. I remember distinctly watching an overhead light shatter and fall to the floor during an Alice Cooper concert because it was DEAFENING. And almost without fail, I can feel the music resonating deep within my chest even if it’s not rock ‘n’ roll.

Another change we’ve observed is that we’re not necessarily the youngsters attending anymore. Sometimes we’re smack in the middle of the pack, while other times we’re surrounded by throngs of people who likely color their grays and carry AARP cards. Nevertheless, and no matter the age, it proves once again that music is the great uniter.

That said, we met some lovely people who sat near us at a Collective Soul concert recently and remarked how similar our taste in music was. What’s amusing is how I ended up there in the F. M. Kirby Center on a Tuesday night in the first place. It’s because I held a grudge. For 30 years. I know it’s juvenile, but I couldn’t help myself. You see, my husband invited some friends’ teenage son (who was a musician himself and slightly obsessed with the band) to see them perform in their heyday over 30 years ago. I, of course, was also slightly obsessed with the band, but did not score tickets. Hence, the grudge.

Lo and behold, my husband redeemed himself by gifting me tickets to see the very same band, albeit three whole decades later. Better late than never, I guess.

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April 7, 2026 · 11:55 am

Chicken Soup

There’s something inherently special about chicken soup. It’s not just the flavor, although that alone has tremendous merit. It’s also the magic it works as a tonic for what ails people, like a cold, Covid or the respiratory flu. It’s comfort food on steroids. I’d go so far as to say my homemade chicken soup has a medicinal quality so great it could probably regrow a limb, or put hair on your chest—whichever you prefer.

There’s nothing complex about my mom’s recipe, though. The ingredients are simple and probably what everyone currently has on hand—some fresh veggies (like carrots, celery and yellow onion), ground black pepper, a little parsley and can upon can of chicken broth or chicken bouillon cubes. Of course, I boil two or three whole chicken legs and save all of the broth and a little of the fat for the soup. I like the whole legs because they’re mostly dark meat, which makes the soup more flavorful and I always get them from Tony’s Deli in Williamsport—one of the best butcher shops/delicatessens in the area (in my humble opinion). I aim for a nice balance of broth and meat/veggies so that it pleases most of those I’m feeding. Near the end stages of cooking, I throw in a few handfuls of noodles and let them soften. I use Kluski, but any egg noodle would do.

As for quantities, I’m embarrassed to say that I add some and not a specific amount which would make it easier to duplicate. Just like my husband’s parents did, the word “some” would appear on their Pennsylvania Dutch family recipes and I would cringe when I tried to recreate their favorites for my family. How much flour is in that dough? Some. How much cinnamon and butter are in that recipe for apple dumplings? Some. It’s so frustrating when I encounter that, so I really do feel your pain if you’re planning to try this recipe anytime soon. But isn’t it more exciting to just wing it anyway?

At any rate, chicken soup is my go-to meal for wintry weather and particularly for friends and family who have fallen ill with something respiratory. There’s something truly brilliant about the steamy blend of brothy goodness, savory meat and delectable vegetables that I almost crave it in July. Almost.

Not surprisingly, there’s real science behind this nearly perfect food for people who are under the weather. I Googled it, because of course I did. According to AI and Dr. Stephen Rennard at the University of Nebraska Medical Center in a study published by the American College of Chest Physicians, chicken soup reduces inflammation, improves the velocity of nasal mucus and hydrates—all good things for alleviating the symptoms of the common cold. And it’s been used therapeutically for thousands of years, apparently. Who knew?

A great online resource for tasty recipes I’ve followed for some time is the Stay at Home Chef, Rachel Farnsworth. She shares short, easy-to-follow videos of a variety of homecooked meals she prepares on Instagram in just minutes. Her website is a wealth of information, too. Check out her sites if you feel so inclined. And let us not forget Webb Weekly’s own columnist, Andrea McElroy (Andrea’s Home Cookin’). She offers terrific recipes and cooking tips both online and in the physical publication, right here in Lycoming County.

I know most of the people in my household are big fans of chicken soup, except one of my daughters who hates soup and certainly wouldn’t eat it on purpose. I’ve personally witnessed her twin sister, however, enjoying my soup. Cold. For breakfast. With a straw. That’s just plain weird, but not all that surprising.

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