“Mom, do you have any clothes that are snug?” one of my brood tossed out as she snacked on a slice of pizza the size of Connecticut.
“Snug?” I asked. Could a wispy second grader fully and completely grasp the meaning of a word like snug–as in, “My pants are so fucking ‘snug,’ I’m going to EXPLODE if I so much as entertain the idea of breathing right now!”?
“Yeah. Like stuff that fits you too tight.”
“Yes, Hon. Virtually everything I own.”
“No, that’s not right, Mom. What you’re wearing right now isn’t too tight,” she corrected.
“Okay.” That’s because I’m so pathetic I happen to be wearing your father’s khakis with the waistband rolled over so they won’t fall to my knees in the grocery store–oh, and an enormous t-shirt so no one actually sees the hideous waistband-rollover-dealie. “ALMOST everything.”
“Like your wedding dress?” she offered casually (How could a puny and oh-so-unworldly kid zero in on THE most significant piece of garmentage I own as it relates directly to my hopeless and eternal struggle with weight since the advent of motherhood?! Needless to say, I was stunned and amazed to learn that she possessed such painfully accurate knowledge).
“Yes, like my wedding dress,” I answered through clenched teeth as I peeled the umpteenth carrot at the sink, wondering where this exercise in humiliation could possibly be headed.
“Can we play dress-up with it then?” she asked offhandedly.
“NO. You can’t play dress-up with my wedding dress! That’s…that’s…just not…it’s just not…appropriate,” I stammered and fished for the proper wordage to protect and defend what was rightfully mine–as if I might need it for a third trip down the aisle at some point in the future. Besides, I didn’t want dribbles of pizza to sully its pristine surface. Or the purplish hue of lip gloss they were sure to smear on it (“…because lipstick makes us more be-U-tiful, Mommy, so we can get married”). My dress was perfectly perfect shrouded in plastic, hanging for all eternity behind the rest of my wardrobe-that-was-too-stinking-small-for-me.
For the record: I made two trips down the aisle.
But in two completely different dresses. In two completely different cities. In two completely different decades.
And, of course, I exchanged I-Do’s with two completely different men.
That said, wearing the same dress twice would have been tacky. And no, I couldn’t have poured myself into the first dress for the second wedding anyway. Not on a bet.
Just then, her partner in crime (i.e. the equally wispy twin sister) joined us in the kitchen to listen in.
“Just where did all this snug malarkey come from anyway?” I had to inquire. Did my ass really look that big? SO big that my soon-to-be-eight-year-old daughters felt compelled to address the issue face-to-face?!
“We saw an ad on TV,” Wispy Girl One answered.
“Yeah. It was about how you could fit into all your old clothes again,” Wispy Girl Two added.
“Oh really,” I said, cynicism oozing from my pores.
“Yeah. It only takes like a day, Mom, and then the man said you could fit into your old clothes. Isn’t that cool?!” Wispy Girl Two further explained.
“Very cool, Hon. Very cool. Although I doubt it would work in just one day.”
“Yeah. It might take you a week because you really don’t get how it works, do you Mom?”
Planet Mom: It’s where I live (in my husband’s khakis…but it’s not what you think). Oh, and you can buy Jen Lancaster’s book here, Such a Pretty Fat and Kim Brittingham’s literary gem, Read My Hips here. Perhaps I ought to zip to the bookstore myself with my tactless children in tow–who will undoubtedly mention to the nice saleslady, “Mommy’s clothes are a bit snug, you know. But she’s working on it.”
Copyright 2009 Melinda L. Wentzel
One response to “And on the Eighth Day, God Created Tactless Children”
Sometimes kids don’t know how lucky they are that we let them live in the house.